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Divorce, Drama, Joker, Karma, Marriage, Relationships, South Korea
So, you’ve watched the last episode of that drama like me and you’re wondering why the sky fell on our collective heads? Welcome to the “Club of the 95%”: We were a majority, we were right and we thought the writer had received us 5/5. Still, we were betrayed and disappointed and royally screwed.
South Korea and Dramaland, we need to talk!
1 – Marriage means rules:
I personally don’t believe in the marriage institution but if you choose to enter it, you have to follow the rules. Or else it’s just a cosmic joke. I checked by curiosity the text with the standards wows than people use for their weddings. Let’s see how many rules were broken by that wonderful X2 husband:
“…treat yourself and each other with dignity and respect”. FAIL.
“Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness”. FAIL.
“Will you love and comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her as long as you both shall live?” FAIL.
“take this ring as a sign of my commitment and fidelity to you.” FAIL. For the record, Soo-nam can stick his diamond ring in his ass: I will take the virtual ring of oppa anytime. Thank you very much. [Stupid doormat woman who didn’t got the hint: You got what you deserve!]
Also: I’ve never been to a South Korean wedding so maybe it’s different. Here, people can oppose a marriage if they have a valid reason for that (domestic slavery should do the trick, right?). If I were here at the 2nd masquerade wedding I would have played the wedding crasher with a Joker’s smile on my face.
2 – Divorce has been invented because humans make mistakes:
– You’re a hot blooded male who discovers you’re into polygamy? Be honest with yourself and change your lifestyle: Divorce.
– You’re a woman abused by your husband AND your in-laws? (verbally, physically, emotionally…): Divorce.
– You meet someone you love more than your actual partner (ah, Impermanence… It’s a b***h, almost like Karma): Divorce.
Who would choose such a perfect, handsome, caring, smart, man for the next 40 years of her life? And he loves you. I forgot to say that…
3 – People NEVER remarry someone they divorced:
Why? Because it’s an awful, long, difficult experience, furthermore when a child is in the balance. Love exists without a reason: People can marry on a whim. But they NEVER divorce because they “feel it” on a beautiful day. They do it cause something essential in the relationship broke up. You know, those outdated notions of trust and respect… Forgiving? YES. Being stupid and staying attached to a millstone = NO WAY.
We all know leopards don’t change their spots. But writer, you want them to get married AGAIN?????? Because he gave a part of his frigging liver or whatever (I didn’t even wait for the subs, so maybe it was a lung: Sorry if I’m wrong readers) … Last time I checked (for those who care), the bastard looked fine and healthy. Now, I bet 20 $ on cheating husband returning to his old habits 2 weeks after the ceremony. (AWWW. But look! He has changed: He cooks now! He plays with his son!). ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I must be a strange woman: I’d rather do 2 different mistakes than the same twice. Just to prove I have a brain you know…
4 – Finally: Writer and PD, you’re all cowards from the stone age!
The stability of the SK society won’t be shattered because 2 people decided to get separated. Birth rate won’t rise because they stay together either. I must also say I screw your Gods of Fate and all those superstitions you were trying to feed me. We are in 2012. I sincerely hope the youngsters of that beautiful country will make fun of that ridiculous ending like it’s meant to be: All the worthy women out there who are having a hard time in their marital lives because of such assholes as Soo-nam don’t deserve to be insulted with such crap. They must be boiling from anger like us. I hope this wreck of a drama ending will have ratings in its socks: The only good news is than now The King Of Dramas won’t have to share its viewers with this show.
Now, you’ll excuse me: I have to keep company to my Super Oppa who has a broken heart. We will drink together until we get completely wasted and we will wake up together on my Island, in my bed.
I will be happy to cook him a hangover soup. Not because I HAVE to (morality!) but because I WANT to (sincere affection!). And we will laugh like crazy, imagining those 2 losers together.
Please applaud the 2 clowns of that pathetic farce!
Oppa shippers, gambei! kampai! santé! salud!
You’re all invited on Mysti Island to celebrate that epic downfall with us!
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I wonder what reaction would the drama get if the female cheated on the male and the male was the faithful one?
It is better to forgive than to hate. There is value in being honest to oneself.
If she continued to be with the her first love even though she still loved her husband she is continuing marriage due to necessity. She will be treating her first love like a life line. It was the same reason she married her husband when her first love left.
The switch helped the husband to understand the wife’s hardship at home and the wife understood the hardship he had at work.
Initially the husband and wife never regarded one another as “the one”. He cheated and she quickly fell for a man that left her over decade ago. He had to learn to love his wife and she had to learn to let go of a past love. Honestly, the husband could had more self control and patience. However, if the husband never lost her he would have continued neglecting her for the rest for their lives even if he never cheated.
I dropped this series one or two episodes after they change bodies because the actors were exaggerating in how they behaved just to show that a different sex genre was “possessing” their body. It was so disgusting to watch that I dropped it like a hot potato.
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Well, the official homepage talks about the purpose of this drama and the ending did justice to it. I would rather have Sunam live in regret for betraying his wife, but the ending was expected from the beginning. This is why I always visit the official site when I pick a drama : to avoid dramas with crappy endings.
It’s true than I don’t read the official page of each drama I watch (I just don’t have the time) but there is some strange things about this one: If they wanted to show the redemption then they should have started at ep 4, not 18. Why the extension of 2 eps? For me the possibility of a clean break-up/new life for everyone was clearly there but they chickened at the last minute for an unknown reason: Producers, main lead or any other pressure. Seriously, why introducing a red-herring character, perfect in all points? Why not focusing on the main couple then?
Also, I thought than the live-shooting system was precisely used to adapt the script along the way, in order to please the viewers. 90% of the viewers agree with me. Looks like I was wrong on a lot of points. Too bad cause it’s a lose/lose/lose situation: Actors, viewers and channel.
OMG!!! I’m so glad I didn’t even start this show. I’m happily married with 2 kids, but if my man have an affair, that would be it, and end I will chop his manlihood!
Go check out this Taiwanese drama called Fierce Wife!!!! that’s how a more realistic drama should be, he cheated and even though they have kid, she still divorced him. Audience happy!!!
well, I know many women would do the same thing in reality. Its the fact! i hate the ending too. but i know.when an ex-husband die they would shed their tears and mourn about. frustrating isnt it?
it’s kdrama, so what do you expect? there’s no way they wouldn’t have the couple reunite and remarry. didn’t the same thing happened in can’t lose but really they did love each other, they just had some miscommunication issues and had secrets from each other. what’s the point of supporting each other if you’re keeping things from each other? you’re bound to get into fights when it gets found out.
anyways, been following the recaps bc it looked hilarious and was thinking of watching it over once the subs are completed. but if that is how it ends, i’d rather not watch. it would’ve been more believable for me, if they’d understood and forgiven each other and remained friends. soo nam can go and pine for his ex wife til the day he dies bc he did not what a great woman he had. and yeo ok could’ve moved on and married w/ hyun woo, having the perfect married life she always wanted. now, that is what the k-drama god should have given us!
I already stop watched this drama since ep 4….Now, i know, I have made good decision…
I KNEW IT!!! Whenever there are kids involved, the couple always reconciles! Can’t have the woman walking away from her ‘duties.’ You know, her critical and demanding mother-in-law, unappreciative sister-in-law, 2x-ing, arrogant husband. Nooooo, they will all get ‘reformed,’ everyone will live happily. Oh, except for that 3rd wheel in the romance scheme, he/she always gets shafted.
Remember, this is the husband that didn’t go to the hospital when his son was born. He should have had the other half of his 2x-ing, obnoxious liver ripped out and fed to the family pet. Or even a neighborhood stray.
I think it’s a plot! Korean drama writers reinforce traditional values of submissive, forgiving women rather than scare terrible husbands into being better. They should show a group of women chasing this bad husband for the other half of his liver while his former wife lives happily with her new lover.
Korea needs a women’s movement. US men would dump their demanding American women in a hot second for those submissive, forgiving Korean women that even take in their MiLs! Keep those submissive, forgiving women in Korea, don’t let them immigrate to the US.
I bailed after the first episode…knew they were gonna reunite the bastard husband with the wife…and that was before Han JaeSuk appeared. So not cool.
Glad to know my decision is right after all! Kanpai!
A-friggin-men. I refuse to finish the series after learning about that. Look, he obviously loves the woman to give his liver, but that does not mean they can be a couple again! You can value someone as a person, but if the romantic part of the relationship is dead and buried, they’re no longer a spouse. They’re a friend or a good acquaintance.
I understand it’s “their culture” and I’m sure someone will explain about how Confucianism is to blame, but I don’t need a why. I need a why STILL? It’s up to entertainment, the arts, education and other such carries of social responsibility to help their people adapt to an ever-changing world. If you actively try to keep them in another century, because it’s what YOU want, then you lose your right to make the material which you provide them. Culture is no excuse to trample on people’s rights and limit their minds by force. Some things are simply about humanity and respect.
“Yes, but this is Korea and we don’t need to change”. Of course. You only export products, entertainment, art, technology and competence to countries all over the world and import things too. You are only a modern country which inevitably will have to co-exist with other countries and cultures if you want to keep your businesses running. And yes, if you want to go hide in a cave and never interact with anyone outside of your own comfort zone, fine, but don’t force that on everyone else. At least give young people watching a choice. Or is it that you are afraid they might choose to not take the crap you peddle them anymore?
I had high hopes for this series. The way it started and was going had me hoping badly. Either the production was really good at fooling us with a decent story to keep people watching and making them money, or then the original plan was, in fact, a modern story and some channel PD or the censorship association stopped them from actually making sense for once.
my gosh… she is back with her SooNam????!!!!!!! and left the super nice Oppa alone (and broken hearted)……………..
the ending completely unrealistic, in real life, i dont think any women will back to the cheater husband, whereas the other option is super nice (its her long lost first love)…….
i only watched until ep 14. will stop watching the rest of the show now……….. 😦
This drama should ended on ep 12
The dancing at the end made me forget for a minute how disappointed I was that YO & SN stayed together. I guess Gi Chan was the driving force in Oppa’s decision, but damn, from him leaving to YO/SN living together there was no prep for the viewer and that’s why we’re fuming.
If the writer wanted the exes to patch-up, it should have been done in a better way. Until half the last episode everything was fine with Super oppa: He managed to get along with her son, they had cute dates etc… Then the cold shower??? I really wanted for YO & SN to understand each other, forgive and become friends. They would have shared the custody for the kid (it’s not like SK fathers see their children a lot anyway because of their long work days). That was a good ending for everyone. Each of the adults even had a partner to start a new life: I was all for Soo-nam to be happy with Victoria…
SN betrayed YO already in her past life! I really hate that mentality of “better some old shit I know than something new I’m scared off”.
I’m with you. WTH with the ending! Aren’t we now in the 21st century or is the writer still living in stone-age era? What a way to ridicule marriages and us, the viewers!
@mystisth, you should strike out everyone’s faces on the poster and leave our dear Oppa’s handsome face untarnished…LOL
There: Changed the pic just for you. I needed to vent my rage yesterday and oppa wasn’t spared. 🙂
I have left this drama to early to be raving. So what was the point, we are meant to be, One good thing erases 1.000 bad ones, even when you are with other woman it’s all love?!
The writer managed to ridicule altogether the marriage, the divorce, his characters, his viewers and all the women. I forgot to say: The way it has been done… Ignoble Idiocy as its finest. Man, I’m pissed! Wanted to give us a shocker? Congrats! Why giving us a false hope? Oppa should have disappeared at ep 16 or something. This is just bullshit to troll the audience.